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“A kind word is worth as much to the brain in terms of rewards as a certain amount of money.” - Matthew Lieberman

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Would you consider yourself sociable? Or even a socialite? Do you think you’re an introvert or an extrovert? Are social experiences important to your life?

 

Matthew Lieberman argues that social things are actually the most important aspect of our lives. He says that when we are rejected, we feel actual, real pain. Pain that is just as real as when we experience physical pain. In fact, he claims that the pain of heartbreak can be just as intense as the pain of breaking a leg.

 

All humans are wired to be social. But why? What does this do for us? And how can we take this knowledge and use it to help us succeed at greater and greater levels? Learn more on this episode of the James Swanwick Show!

 

“Bullying is so painful to humans not just because of what the bully thinks, but because we think that others must think what the bully is thinking.” - Matthew Lieberman

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Key Takeaways

  • Connection is the foundation on which our social lives are founded
  • Humans naturally want to be around people, a team
  • A kind word is worth as much to the brain in terms of rewards as a certain amount of money
  • All humans have a need to belong, and to know that others like, admire and love them
  • Bullying is so painful to humans not just because of what the bully thinks, but because we think that others must think what the bully is thinking
  • Social pain is real pain. Sometimes these are the absolute most painful experiences of our lives, i.e., a loved one’s death, a breakup, etc

 

Resources

“Social” by Matthew Lieberman

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Show Notes: JamesSwanwick.com/174

Direct download: Social_FINAL_VIDEO.mp4
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“A kind word is worth as much to the brain in terms of rewards as a certain amount of money.” - Matthew Lieberman

(click to tweet)

 

Would you consider yourself sociable? Or even a socialite? Do you think you’re an introvert or an extrovert? Are social experiences important to your life?

 

Matthew Lieberman argues that social things are actually the most important aspect of our lives. He says that when we are rejected, we feel actual, real pain. Pain that is just as real as when we experience physical pain. In fact, he claims that the pain of heartbreak can be just as intense as the pain of breaking a leg.

 

All humans are wired to be social. But why? What does this do for us? And how can we take this knowledge and use it to help us succeed at greater and greater levels? Learn more on this episode of the James Swanwick Show!

 

“Bullying is so painful to humans not just because of what the bully thinks, but because we think that others must think what the bully is thinking.” - Matthew Lieberman

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Key Takeaways

  • Connection is the foundation on which our social lives are founded
  • Humans naturally want to be around people, a team
  • A kind word is worth as much to the brain in terms of rewards as a certain amount of money
  • All humans have a need to belong, and to know that others like, admire and love them
  • Bullying is so painful to humans not just because of what the bully thinks, but because we think that others must think what the bully is thinking
  • Social pain is real pain. Sometimes these are the absolute most painful experiences of our lives, i.e., a loved one’s death, a breakup, etc

 

Resources

“Social” by Matthew Lieberman

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Show Notes: JamesSwanwick.com/174

Direct download: Social.xml_mixdown_FINAL_MIX.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 12:01am PST

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“Make sure that you’re following a balanced diet with enough protein to keep you from feeling like you need to binge on sweets.” - Crosby Tailor

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Do you have a sweet tooth? Most people in the world do. Some are worse than others, but this sweet tooth will often interfere with our dietary goals. How can you eat your sweets and still stay healthy?

As it turns out, there is a way to eat delicious desserts that satisfy your sweet tooth, and keep up your healthy diet, and Crosby Tailor is here to tell us how! Crosby’s speciality is making desserts that are incredibly tasty, and yet still incredibly healthy!

We dig into a lot of ingredient details on this episode, so make sure to take notes! If you’ve ever wondered if it was possible to have six pack abs and still eat dessert, this episode is for you! Take notes, checkout the recipes on Crosby’s website, and listen and learn to this episode of the James Swanwick Show!

“You should be very untrusting of desserts you are offered anywhere, even if they’re ‘healthy.’ Best to make your own.” - Crosby Tailor

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Key Takeaways

  • You should be untrusting of most desserts you are offered anywhere. Even healthy desserts are often not in line with your diet goals
  • Look into Erythritol as a healthy sweetener. Use as powder to blend it consistently into your baking
  • Use coconut flour instead of white flower
  • Be careful of using too much stevia, as a lot of people have a strong sensitivity to the flavor profile of stevia
  • Even eating healthily, don’t overeat. But when you’re eating healthy, you’ll tend to be full and less likely to overeat

DIY Healthy Cookies

  1. Flour base: Try a substitute for white flour like coconut, quinoa, or almond flour
  2. Eggs: Look for pasture-raised, cage-free, etc
  3. Butter: Try substituting Ghee to avoid lactose
  4. Baking powder: Look for aluminum-free
  5. Sweetener: Try stevia, erythritol. Use some chocolate or cocoa
  6. Liquid: Coconut milk

Other Ingredients Mentioned

  1. Pink salt
  2. Grass fed whey protein
  3. Bone broth based powder
  4. Cacao nibs
  5. MCT oil
  6. Mint

Resources

EatDessertBurnFat.com

Lakanto.com - Place to by Erythritol sweetener

Get My Books Notes on 3 Life-Changing Books

 

Show Notes: JamesSwanwick.com/173

Direct download: How_To_Eat_Dessert_And_Burn_Fat_FINAL_VIDEO.mp4
Category:general -- posted at: 12:01am PST

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“Make sure that you’re following a balanced diet with enough protein to keep you from feeling like you need to binge on sweets.” - Crosby Tailor

(click to tweet)

 

Do you have a sweet tooth? Most people in the world do. Some are worse than others, but this sweet tooth will often interfere with our dietary goals. How can you eat your sweets and still stay healthy?

As it turns out, there is a way to eat delicious desserts that satisfy your sweet tooth, and keep up your healthy diet, and Crosby Tailor is here to tell us how! Crosby’s speciality is making desserts that are incredibly tasty, and yet still incredibly healthy!

We dig into a lot of ingredient details on this episode, so make sure to take notes! If you’ve ever wondered if it was possible to have six pack abs and still eat dessert, this episode is for you! Take notes, checkout the recipes on Crosby’s website, and listen and learn to this episode of the James Swanwick Show!

“You should be very untrusting of desserts you are offered anywhere, even if they’re ‘healthy.’ Best to make your own.” - Crosby Tailor

(click to tweet)

Key Takeaways

  • You should be untrusting of most desserts you are offered anywhere. Even healthy desserts are often not in line with your diet goals
  • Look into Erythritol as a healthy sweetener. Use as powder to blend it consistently into your baking
  • Use coconut flour instead of white flower
  • Be careful of using too much stevia, as a lot of people have a strong sensitivity to the flavor profile of stevia
  • Even eating healthily, don’t overeat. But when you’re eating healthy, you’ll tend to be full and less likely to overeat

DIY Healthy Cookies

  1. Flour base: Try a substitute for white flour like coconut, quinoa, or almond flour
  2. Eggs: Look for pasture-raised, cage-free, etc
  3. Butter: Try substituting Ghee to avoid lactose
  4. Baking powder: Look for aluminum-free
  5. Sweetener: Try stevia, erythritol. Use some chocolate or cocoa
  6. Liquid: Coconut milk

Other Ingredients Mentioned

  1. Pink salt
  2. Grass fed whey protein
  3. Bone broth based powder
  4. Cacao nibs
  5. MCT oil
  6. Mint

Resources

EatDessertBurnFat.com

Lakanto.com - Place to by Erythritol sweetener

Get My Books Notes on 3 Life-Changing Books

 

Show Notes: JamesSwanwick.com/173

Direct download: How_To_Eat_Dessert_And_Burn_Fat_FINAL_MIX.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 12:01am PST

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This episode is a recording of a meetup in London. I go around the gathering, and ask a variety of people what their story is. The answers are fascinating!

If you’ve been following me for a bit, you know that this is my favorite conversation starter: “What is your story?” This opens up a whole world of possible responses from the person you are talking to, and allows them to get into far more detail about what they’re passionate about than if you simply asked them where they’re from, or what their job is.

I also dig a bit into how I was able to interview Jack Nicholson as my first ever celebrity interview, land a job hosting ESPN Sports Center, build a PR company, and much more! Listen up and please enjoy this episode of the James Swanwick Show!

Key Takeaways

  • Surround yourself with people you aren’t negative, and have similar goals to you
  • Notice the conversation starter: “What’s your story?” This opener opens the door for a huge variety of different conversations

 

  • Fearlessly approach people and try to learn whatever you can about them, their life, and their story

 

  • Be tenacious in asking people for what you want. Just ask!

 

Resources

Get My Book Notes on 3 Life-Changing Books

 

Show Notes: JamesSwanwick.com/172

Direct download: Meetup_Mp3.mp3
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What is your one thing? What is the single thing that you most want to be known for? What is the single thing that you have to get done today?

This show is a book review of “The One Thing” by Gary Kelly. The book speaks to the ways that it is easy to get distracted by competing interests and attention-grabbers, and that if we want to attain success, we need unwavering focus, for lengthy periods, on one single thing.

Many people keep to-do lists for their day. They carefully plot out the 7-8 or more things that they must get done that day, and then they work through them. Kelly tells us that this is actually an extremely inefficient way of going about the day. Instead, we should define the one single thing that would go a long way in getting us ahead in the areas we want to get ahead in, and go all out on that one thing.

So listen up to learn how to up your productivity on this episode of the James Swanwick Show!

Key Takeaways

  • Don’t create a checklist. Ask yourself, “what is the one thing you can do today that will move your life ahead?”
  • The worst thing you can do is constantly jump between jobs. When you switch jobs you are wasting effort on the switch, and it’s extremely inefficient
  • Chunk your work into single things that you can put all of your attention and focus on
  • Put all of your focus on what you want to be doing. Don’t waste time on other things, but put all of your attention into whatever your one thing is

Resources:

“The One Things” by Kevin Kelly

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Show Notes: JamesSwanwick.com/171

Direct download: The_One_Thing_Book_Review_MP3.mp3
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“Ask yourself where you would be in a year if you ate perfectly.” - Dr. Glenn Livingston

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Are you a binge-eater? Do you chronically over-eat? Maybe you’re just aware of the guilty pleasures that you let creep into your life habitually, and that you would be better off without them. Dr. Glenn Livingston is on the show today to help you learn how you can take control, eat the way you really want to, and thereby live the life you know you want to live!

Everyone has an inner-monster, and labeling it as such can go a long way towards helping you live the life you want to. Livingston calls his the “inner-pig,” but there are a variety of things you could call it, and allocating it to something different than you gives you additional willpower in your fight against the urges. You  can either do what you want to do, or acquiesce to the wishes of your inner monster. It’s your choice.

Understanding that eating the right way is actually what you want, and that you don’t want to continue the bad eating habits of your past is just the tip of the iceberg here, and Dr. Glenn Livingston has a lot to say about how to define what binge-eating is for you, how to craft the statement of what your perfect eating habits would look like, and why eating mindfully is so important to healthy eating. Listen up and learn on this episode of the James Swanwick Show!

“Mindfully eat your food, aware of each bite, to avoid eating more than you really need/want.” - Dr. Glenn Livingston

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Key Takeaways:

  • Everyone needs to define for themselves what binge eating is, and what is not binge eating
  • Understand your inner monster, and label it to help you confine it
  • Regardless of your upbringing, your decisions are still your decisions and no one else’s. This doesn't discount the amount of work you may have to do to overcome your specific difficulties, but it is important that you understand that it is your decisions alone
  • Allocate the urges you want to avoid (binge-eating, etc) to your “inner- (monster pig, slacker)
  • Make sure you mindfully eat your food, aware of each bite, to avoid eating more than you really need/want
  • Create a definitive and declarative statement of what you want your eating habits to look like habitually
  • Ask yourself where you would be in a year if you followed your declarative statement perfectly
  • You must be confident that you are 100% sure in what you want, and that your inner-monster is the one trying to sneak ideas of cheating past you

Resources

NeverBingeAgain.com

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Show Notes: JamesSwanwick.com/171

Direct download: Stop_Binge-Eating_-_Dr._Glenn_Livingston_FINAL_VIDEO.mp4
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“Ask yourself where you would be in a year if you ate perfectly.” - Dr. Glenn Livingston

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Are you a binge-eater? Do you chronically over-eat? Maybe you’re just aware of the guilty pleasures that you let creep into your life habitually, and that you would be better off without them. Dr. Glenn Livingston is on the show today to help you learn how you can take control, eat the way you really want to, and thereby live the life you know you want to live!

Everyone has an inner-monster, and labeling it as such can go a long way towards helping you live the life you want to. Livingston calls his the “inner-pig,” but there are a variety of things you could call it, and allocating it to something different than you gives you additional willpower in your fight against the urges. You  can either do what you want to do, or acquiesce to the wishes of your inner monster. It’s your choice.

Understanding that eating the right way is actually what you want, and that you don’t want to continue the bad eating habits of your past is just the tip of the iceberg here, and Dr. Glenn Livingston has a lot to say about how to define what binge-eating is for you, how to craft the statement of what your perfect eating habits would look like, and why eating mindfully is so important to healthy eating. Listen up and learn on this episode of the James Swanwick Show!

“Mindfully eat your food, aware of each bite, to avoid eating more than you really need/want.” - Dr. Glenn Livingston

(click to tweet)

Key Takeaways:

  • Everyone needs to define for themselves what binge eating is, and what is not binge eating
  • Understand your inner monster, and label it to help you confine it
  • Regardless of your upbringing, your decisions are still your decisions and no one else’s. This doesn't discount the amount of work you may have to do to overcome your specific difficulties, but it is important that you understand that it is your decisions alone
  • Allocate the urges you want to avoid (binge-eating, etc) to your “inner- (monster pig, slacker)
  • Make sure you mindfully eat your food, aware of each bite, to avoid eating more than you really need/want
  • Create a definitive and declarative statement of what you want your eating habits to look like habitually
  • Ask yourself where you would be in a year if you followed your declarative statement perfectly
  • You must be confident that you are 100% sure in what you want, and that your inner-monster is the one trying to sneak ideas of cheating past you

Resources

NeverBingeAgain.com

Get My Book Notes on 3 Life-Changing Books

 

Show Notes: JamesSwanwick.com/171

 

Direct download: Stop_Binge-Eating_-_Dr._Glenn_Livingston_FINAL_MP3.mp3
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“People say you can never look back. I like to look backwards, forward, and also live in the moment.” - James Swanwick

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We constantly hear the phrase “you can never look back.” Whether in song, in advice, or any other form, it seems like people are opposed to the idea of “looking back,” or of nostalgically exploring your past, as if it will have some negative effect on your progress toward the future, will slow you down, or will make you try to go back to that time in your life.

In my opinion, there is a lot of positives that can come from looking back. In fact, I think that there are positives to looking backwards and forwards, and that this practice can, surprisingly, help you live more in the moment!

This may be a surprising idea to many. The advice of “never look back,” or “live in the future” is often given as a means of helping you live more in the moment. But I find clarity in where I’ve come by looking back, which helps me learn to always live in the moment and appreciate every second of every day.

Listen to this episode of the James Swanwick Show to learn what I think about living in the moment, why looking back, or times of nostalgia, can actually help you live in the moment, and why not every interaction needs to be about business. All that and more on this episode of the James Swanwick Show!

Key Takeaways

  • People say you can’t look back, but there’s value in the enrichment of nostalgia, and what you can learn from it
  • But never let your past define or limit you
  • Looking back can give you clarity towards where you want to go in the future
  • Thinking over your life, and what you’ve done, can fuel you toward the future, and even help you live more in the moment now
  • As long as you can simultaneously live in the moment, letting your thoughts wander toward the past or future can enrich you
  • Having goals but also being content in the moment is the sweet spot.
  • Try to make decisions to hang out with people that you don’t have a clear vision of how it can help you. These interactions will enrich your life

 

“Having goals but also being content in the moment is the sweet spot.” - James Swanwick

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Resources

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Show Notes: JamesSwanwick.com/169

Direct download: Should_You_Ever_Look_Back_mixdown_FINAL_MIX.mp3
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Do you know what your love style is? Are you anxious? Are you secure? Are you avoidant?How about your partner? Do you understand the ways that your two love style compliment, or may indeed clash with each other? By understanding this, you can go a long way in understanding a lot of the conflict in your life!

Today I’m reviewing “Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind - and Keep - Love” by Amir Levine. Paying attention to the ways you express love, whether you tend to get jealous easily, if you need alone time, or if you're secure in the other person’s love for you, will help you have the best relationship possible.

So listen up carefully to this episode if you want a better love life, and want to further deepen your relationships! Don’t miss it, take notes, subscribe and rate and review the podcast!

Key Takeaways

  • Secure, avoidant or anxious are different types of love styles you might encounter
  • Once you understand these three types, you might be able to understand why your expectations of your partner may be off
  • Anxious: Craves assurance that you will be there for them
  • Secure: You are secure in the idea that your lover loves you and will be true to you
  • Avoidant: Really enjoys their time alone, or perhaps short term relationships or single. They can have long-term relationships, but they enjoy their time alone
  • Understanding the style that you are, and the style that your partner is, will go a long way in helping you to understand each other and each other’s actions

Resources

“Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind - and Keep - Love” by Amir Levine

QuitToBegin.com

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Show Notes: JamesSwanwick.com/168

Direct download: What_Love_Style_Are_You_mixdown_FINAL_MIX.mp3
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